Self-development books will teach you what you didn’t learn in school
I preach about self-development and self-improvement all the time. This is because I know the impact some self-growth can have on your life. I have witnessed it. Self-development does not only help you conquer your professional goals. You also get to have good relationships, know what you want and go for it, deal with issues such as self-esteem, self-doubt, anxiety among others, as well as increase your productivity. Here are some life changing self-development books you really should read. Continue reading
I have always liked reading, not only for fun but because reading has impacted my life in so many ways. I don’t read as much as I would like to because of time, and let’s face it, books can also be darn expensive. Time is especially a constraint I struggle with since as much as I would like to get paid just to read, I have to earn my bread and I will always prioritize on working than reading. Recently, I have found a new way to gain knowledge without necessarily sitting down to read. This has been through listening to audiobooks. They have become such time savers and I wish I discovered this before since I would have read so much more books than I have today. Continue reading
I read everything; from children’s books, to bestselling fiction to the most cliché sounding self-help books. Not only do I get entertained by the stories I come across, or intrigued by new research findings, but I believe I learn something from every book I read, however small or relevant the lesson is in my life. Continue reading
Subcultures are formed through a myriad of factors, such as geography, hobbies, beliefs, and lifestyles. Some are more recognisable or transnational than most like the hipster subculture, which is made up of predominantly young to middle-aged adults; while others, such as steampunk, are more obscure. These niches are often difficult to understand from an outsider’s perspective but each one has its own interesting story.
Oh! Don’t let the title fool you, it is a pretty decent book. I promise.
When I mentioned this book as one of the 5 books that have changed my life, I was about halfway done. Now that I am done (and rereading it already) I think it deserves a special review. I like Mark Manson’s fresh view of life, his unapologetic views and opinions and how out of the ordinary this book addresses things that we are all too decent to mention. Continue reading
Say what you want to say about self help books, but I learn something from every book that I read. Sure, some of these books make me roll my eyes the whole time as I read, because they sound so obvious and forced. However, from every self help book, (or any other book), I take a lesson that I find myself applying in my life.
I don’t want to be overly dramatic by saying these 5 books have changed my life; but sure enough there is a lesson or two that I have learned from them that have created some form of impact in my life. Here is my list of impactful books and the lesson I borrowed from them.
I love motivational quotes and stories. If you follow me on social media then you know that I’m big on sharing quotes that I’ve come across. There have been arguments on whether motivation actually works; be it intrinsic or extrinsic motivation. I like engaging in self motivating activities, anything that keeps my energy level up.
Let me ask you, how do you feel after making yourself pretty to attend a fun event? How do you feel when somebody compliments you? Great, right? The same way a compliment boosts your mood is the same way motivation works. While there have been arguments questioning the effect of motivation on performance, there have been theories to prove on the effects of motivation.
Before I get to it, I’d like you to take a while and think of some force you believe in. Say for example, religion, the universe and such. A religious person will tell you prayers work. A person who believes in the universal rule will tell you that it works; whatever signals you send to the universe you get back the same. We could spend hours arguing on what works and what does not, depending on what we believe in, but the bottom line is, these work because they believe in their power. Continue reading
“Vision will get you inspired. Discipline will take you there.” ~Christine Caine.
If you ask most people, they have brilliant ideas of what they want to do with their lives. Especially career wise and other related life areas. If you ask the same people why they have not yet worked on these ideas, excuses will come up. ‘I never have enough time’, ‘I need to earn some money first’, ‘I would have cleared my masters now but I don’t have time to write my thesis’, ‘I would have started that business, but I need to find extra time to work on it’, ‘I can lose weight, just that I don’t have time to work out’ and many more. While these may seem like valid excuses justifying why they’ve not done what they want to do, they are just that, excuses.
Discipline, though we fail to acknowledge is the force to getting anything done. The thing about discipline is that it’s uncomfortable. Very uncomfortable. It kicks you out of your comfort zone. As a result of getting used to rules everywhere, in school, at work, we got used to extrinsic discipline. Meaning that you only follow the rules because they have already been set and there are consequences if/when you fail to follow them. So, when you set your own rules you relax and slack because hey, you have a choice and no one will scold you.
Lets be honest, who wouldn’t like a week of just slacking in the house watching a series or reading a book or doing whatever it is we do for fun? It is a very tempting activitity, and when we get time off our already set schedules, that is what we do. Relax, unwind, have some ‘me time’.
“The worst enemy to creativity is self doubt” – Sylvia Plath
Most times, we don’t get what we want, not because it is unattainable, but because we doubt ourselves. Self doubt is something a lot of people struggle with. The truth is, self doubt is standing between you and your goal, and if you don’t work on that, it could make you a life you do not love.
Here are some of the reasons you may be experiencing self doubt;
Do you over think everything that you do? That is, before you make any decision, you churn it in your head over and over and then end up labelling it as not good enough? Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying you should not give things a thought before you make logical decisions, but doing it too much makes you start doubting it. This is how irrational thoughts happen. You think so much about something such that they end up becoming negative thoughts and worries. Worry will never get you anywhere. It will only give you doubt and keep you from doing whatever it is that you really want to do.
“Worry is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere”
― Erma Bombeck